How To Stop Worrying And Start Living, By Dale Carnegie
I didn’t get very far with this book before it was due back at the library, and another book nabbed my attention.
Of what I read, I gathered a few tips about dealing with worry.
1. Live in “day-tight compartments”.
Essentially, you can always plan for the future but, don’t worry about tomorrow. Just live each day until bedtime. Instead of worrying about something that may happen in the future or something that happened in the past, concentrate on the task at hand.
Easier said then done, especially if you’re a worry-wart like myself.
Still, there’s something calming about focusing on what you’re doing right now (or something tangible you could do immediately), versus a vague/thing/situation/issue that may or may not occur some time off in the future.
2. Keep busy.
This one I sorta skimmed over, but it’s simple to understand and makes complete sense.
It also relates back to the first point.
When you’re actually busy doing stuff (and not just sitting around being consumed by your thoughts), you don’t have time to worry.
The book mentions that it’s impossible for human minds – no matter how brilliant – to think of more than one thing at any given time. Interesting. I just tried it! I tried to think of both an apple and an orange simultaneously but, both images didn’t appear in my mind. A red delicious came first, then an orange. Alright Carnegie. Lol
Similarly, we can’t be hyped up and enthusiastic about doing something exciting and bummed out with worry at the very same time.
“One kind of emotion drives out the other.”
3. Ask yourself: “What’s the worst that can happen?”
If you’re feeling overwhelmed with worry, prepare to accept the worst possible outcome of the problem, if necessary. Then, try to improve upon it.
I like this question! What is the worst that can happen?
The worst? Off the top of my head, in regards to any situation…
“The world ending.”
Extreme, I know. But, these two answers makes virtually any other possibility seem handleable. No?
Even in death, we know that the world does not end. People die every day. There’s a time of mourning and grief, but the world…keeps right on spinning.
And, if the world did end…well then, there’d be nothing to worry about!
Carnegie says that when you know (and accept) the worst, you have nothing more to lose and that automatically means, you have everything to gain.
Overall, the biggest take away I got from (what I’ve read of) this book, is that worrying is a waste of energy and, it’s no good for your health!
I may pick it up again later, if needed.