Does external events create your moods? Or, your does own thoughts & attitudes?
If you’re happy…are you happy because, you won the lottery. Or. Are you happy because you’re thinking of all the wonderful things you can now afford to do?
Say you’re upset. Frustrated.
Are you upset because, someone cut you off whilst driving on the road? Or. Are you upset because, you’re thinking that that person is a jerk for cutting you off. And, they’re ALWAYS cutting you off. Every morning at 8:02, they cut you off. And, how dare they not be more considerate of your safety…of their own safety?
Is it the actual event that made you feel frustrated, or happy? Or, your thinking?
Psychology. It’s so very interesting to me.
When I stumbled upon The Feeling Good Handbook at the library, I couldn’t put it down. I’ve since skimmed & jumped all over several different chapters. It’s a very interesting, easy-to-understand, fun read.
This (extremely thick) book talks about cognitive therapy.
“Cognitive therapy is based on the simple idea that your thoughts and attitudes-and not external events-create your moods.” And that,”…by learning to change your thoughts, you can change the way you feel.”
Of course. If you’re feeling happy, because you’re thinking “happy thoughts”, you don’t want to change that. The book mostly talks about how to break out of those icky bad moods.
It also covers:
- The idea that every type of negative feeling results from a specific kind of negative thought. For instance, guilt.
The book says: “Guilt results from the thought that you are bad. When a friend makes an unreasonable request, you may feel a twinge of guilt and think, “A really nice person would say yes.” Then you may agree to something that isn’t really in your best interest.”
Another instance, feelings of inferiority.
The book says that results from: “…the thought that you’re inadequate in comparison to others. You think, “She’s so much better looking than I am” or “He’s so much smarter and more successful. What’s wrong with me?”.”
- How to untwist distorted thinking.
- How to conquer anxiety, fear, and phobias.
- How to deal with difficult people.
- How to become a better communicator.
- (And, my personal favorite…)Why people procrastinate. And, how to become more productive & successful.
The book even has nifty little tests, charts, and write-in sections.
I love it! Very informative & helpful ideas.
So, I purchased a copy from Amazon to giveaway.
Then, I thought…“Oooh! A Moleskine journal, with some colorful pens would be nice!”
I’ve been writing in Moleskines for years. I absolutely love their notebooks.
And...who doesn’t love a good Sharpie pen?!
To enter this “Feel Good” Giveaway, you must:
- Be an MM Subscriber (Email, RSS, or Bloglovin’), U.S. resident, and at least 18 years of age.
- Leave a comment on this post, and tell me…
What makes you feel good?
closes on Friday, February 1st. is now closed for entries.
Thank you for entering!
My book clubmate/blogging buddy Mississippi Mulatto, and I will be blogging about this book in March. So. If you win, you’ll be able to follow, journal, and discuss it along with us, in more detail. Can’t wait!
This giveaway is intended strictly for entertainment & general self-help purposes. MerelyMarie is not recommending (or, sponsoring the giveaway of ) The Feeling Good Handbook for any of it’s statements on depression, nor it’s psychiatric drug references & information. If you are dealing with or suffering from depression, please seek professional help immediately.